11 Toxic Habits to Quit Today – Reclaim Your Happiness
Discover 11 toxic habits to quit, reclaim your happiness and step into a happier and healthier version of yourself. Start living life to the fullest and embrace all the joy and happiness life holds for you.
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Key takeouts
- Our daily habits directly influence the quality of our lives as they shape our health, happiness, relationships and success.
- The term toxic habits refers to harmful behaviour and thought patterns that can negatively impact your physical, mental, and emotional health.
- In most cases, we are not even aware of our toxic habits. Yet, these habits lead our lives and guide our decision-making process daily.
- Eliminating toxic habits can help foster more mental and emotional stability for yourself, allowing you to live a more balanced and fulfilled life. In addition to this, breaking toxic habits allows you to step into your full potential empowering you to thrive in all areas of your life.
- In today’s blog post, we will discuss the 11 most common toxic habits and look at practical solutions and strategies to help you quit these toxic habits and finally break free.
Our daily habits influence the quality of our lives as they shape our health, happiness, relationships and success.
Healthy habits such as regular exercise, a balanced diet, self-care activities, etc. enhance our physical and mental well-being and promote personal growth and development.
Toxic habits, however, can negatively impact our lives and hold us back from living our full potential and embracing all the joy and happiness that life has for us.
Ultimately, the habits we form over time determine our overall quality of life, shaping our daily experiences and life in general.
If you want to live a happier and healthier life, being aware of your toxic habits is key.
The tricky part though, we are not always aware of our toxic habits. Which makes toxic habits to quit a bit more challenging.
What are toxic habits?
Toxic habits are negative behaviour and thought patterns that can be harmful to your physical, mental, and emotional well-being.
However, most of the time we are not even aware of our toxic habits. Yet, these toxic habits lead our lives as they guide our decision-making process daily.
They influence how we think, interact with people, show up in the world, etc.
Over time, these toxic habits can create a negative cycle that affects the quality and well-being of our lives.
Recommended resources: 3 Empowering Shadow Work Exercises – A Journey from Dark to Light.
Why do we have toxic habits?
Toxic habits develop over time and the reasons for having toxic habits can vary.
It can be social and cultural influences, or behaviour patterns that you picked up from your parents, it could be a coping mechanism that you developed over time to deal with e.g. stress and anxiety, a traumatic experience, etc., but it can also be a learned behaviour or simply a lack of awareness.
We are all different, and our stories and experiences are different, hence the reasons why we have toxic habits can vary from person to person.
By identifying these toxic behaviours, also called bad habits, and changing them into good habits, we can live life to our fullest potential and create a life that feels more balanced and aligned with who we are at the essence of our being.
Recommended resources: The Importance Of Core Values in Life – A Powerful Journey From Authenticity To Happiness.
Breaking toxic habits
Understanding the root cause of toxic habits is the first step toward breaking toxic habits.
Below are three strategies to help you break free from toxic patterns:
- Self-reflection & awareness – question your behaviours and how they impact your daily life; journaling can be a great way to help you gain more self-awareness about your behaviours
- Develop healthy coping mechanisms – find alternative ways to manage stress and emotions such as exercise, meditation, self-care activities, etc.
- Set a goal and create a plan – define a clear goal and a plan on how to replace toxic habits with healthy habits
Some toxic habits are easier to quit than others. In some cases, it might even be good to seek professional support, especially for these deeply ingrained toxic habits involving addiction or anything else you feel you could do with a bit of support. Asking for help is not a weakness, it shows character and personal strength.
Quit these 11 toxic habits and transform your life today
Below are 11 toxic habits to quit empowering you to become the best version of yourself, celebrate the present moment and embrace your future with a positive outlook.
1. Negative self-talk
Negative self-talk is a toxic habit that is very common and refers to the negative internal dialogue that we have with ourselves.
Examples of negative self-talk are:
- “I will never get that job, I am simply not good enough let’s face it.”
- “I am a mess and I will never change.”
- “I am too old to start something new.”
- “Why bother trying? I’ll just fail again.”
- “I will never be as successful as my peers.”
- …
Welcome to your inner critic, also called shadow self.
Negative self-talk will hold you back from shining your light, speaking your truth, and connecting with your purpose.
Constant self-criticism can hugely impact your mental, emotional and physical well-being. It can cause low self-esteem, increase stress and anxiety levels, lower your performance and productivity, lead to depression, etc.
This can also affect your physical health over time leading to a weakened immune system, digestive issues, lack of sleep, and bad posture due to lack of movement, etc.
How to quit this toxic habit:
- Practise self-awareness
- Be aware of your negative self-talk when your inner critic comes up
- Confront your inner critic and question him/her
- Think like a friend: what would you tell a friend in this situation?
- Keep in mind that your thoughts are not always reality
- Have compassion for yourself
- Learn how to cultivate self-love
Recommended resources: 3 Empowering Shadow Work Exercises – A Journey from Dark to Light and 7 Powerful Self-Love Exercises – Ignite Your Inner Glow.
2. Spending too much time on social media
Social media can be fun and offers a lot of opportunities, but there are always two sides to the medal and social media can also put a lot of pressure on us.
What you see on social media is usually far from reality and the constant exposure to idealized images and success stories can lead to unhealthy comparisons, feelings of loneliness, fear of missing out and low self-esteem.
In addition, social media platforms are designed to be addictive, the constant flow of new content, endless scrawling opportunities, automated notifications, etc. keep us engaged on these platforms and often result in excessive use.
By spending more time online instead of in the real world, you miss out on important social interactions and build superficial connections rather than meaningful relationships with the people around you.
How to quit this toxic habit:
- Think about how much actual lifetime you are losing while scrolling through your phone
- Reduce your screen time per day
- Introduce a digital detox once a week
- Spend time doing a hobby
- Meet up with friends
- Engage in life
- After some time, do a recap: check in with yourself and notice what has changed for you. What are the benefits of having less screen time? What has changed positively in your life? How have your relationships changed? Etc.
3. Living in a messy environment
We have all been there…laundry that needs folding piling up on the couch, empty coffee cups in the kitchen sink, the mail from the past two weeks is still sitting on the hallway cupboard, the reminder on the fridge to pay the electricity bill, etc.
Sometimes life takes over, I totally get it, but living in a messy environment can increase your stress levels, decrease motivation, reduce productivity, lower your mood, and make it difficult for you to focus as there are too many distractions around you.
How to quit this toxic habit:
- Start by organizing your wardrobe
- Clear out your beauty products
- Declutter your home room by room
- Always make your bed in the morning
- Do a 20-minute surface cleanup once a week to get rid of any clutter piling up
- Introduce the 2-min rule: For activities that take less than 2 min do them when you spot them
- Look at your daily routines and find ways to optimize them
Recommended resources: A Fresh Start: Declutter Your Life To Find More Clarity And Harmony.
4. Comparing yourself to others
Growing up in a society where you are constantly judged by your appearance, education, job title, income, etc. doesn’t generate the confidence to be yourself.
Comparing yourself to others changes your mood instantly. It makes you feel inferior and insecure as you always focus on the lack aka the things you don’t have or can’t do and you always end up losing out.
Constantly comparing yourself to others can result in low self-esteem, increase anxiety and depression, cause feelings of jealousy, hinder your personal growth and personal development, and decrease your motivation as well as the joy of living.
How to quit this toxic habit:
- Understand that we are all different
- Understand that not everything is as shiny and perfect as it might look on the outside
- Focus on your own journey
- Focus on your own personal development
- Define your strengths
- Start to practice gratitude
- Get to know yourself better and define your personal core values
- Create a life plan and focus on creating the life that you desire for yourself
Recommended resources: 41 Affirmations For Self-Love – The Ultimate Path To True Joy And Happiness.
5. Worrying about what other people think
The truth is, that people will always judge you or talk about you. No matter what you do or don’t do. So you might as well give them a show.
I always like to refer to Wednesday Addams. She shows us so confidently that no matter who you are, what you look like, where you are from, etc., you already have a place in this world. And all you have to do is take it.
You are the only one accountable for your life, make it yours. You owe it to yourself.
How to quit this toxic habit:
- Understand that you cannot please everyone in this world
- Make self-care part of your daily routine
- Start to cultivate self-love
- Focus on your core values and goals
- Set healthy boundaries with the people in your life
- Speak your truth
Recommended resources: 5 Inspirational Life Lessons From Wednesday Addams.
6. Binge-watching TV shows & series
Sometimes a Sunday of binge-watching TV shows or series to recover from a busy week or weekend is just what you need. Agreed.
But if binge-watching becomes a regular thing, this can quickly turn into a toxic habit.
Consequences of binge-watching TV can be physical health issues due to the lack of movement, sleep disruption, reduced productivity, social isolation, emotional desensitization, and unhealthy eating habits.
How to quit this toxic habit:
- Make TV time special, make it a treat
- Carefully select the content that you are consuming
- Do something else while watching TV, e.g. fold the laundry, sort out your mail, etc.
- Start an audiobook or a podcast around a topic that inspires you
- Define your passions
- Do more of what makes you happy
- Start a hobby
7. Being with people who don’t appreciate you
Instead of being with people who are constantly late, criticizing you for your decisions, and complaining about everything, be with people who match your values.
People who inspire you, people you can learn from, people who cheer you on, and people who appreciate you for who you are.
Yes, you risk losing some friends, but I would question whether these people were real friends in the first place.
How to quit this toxic habit:
- Value and appreciate who you are
- Be selective when it comes to friendships
- Set healthy boundaries in your relationships
- Be ok to spend time with yourself
- Be yourself when you go out into the world – energy attract
- Speak your truth
Recommended resources: 5 Steps How To Set Healthy Boundaries in Relationships – Empower Your Voice.
8. Not letting go of the past
Letting go of the past, e.g. a person, a relationship, a job constellation, etc. can hurt. I am with you and letting go can be a difficult one.
But if your mind keeps engaging with the past and cannot let go of it, you will never be fully present and will miss out on living and enjoying your life to the fullest right now, in the present moment.
Holding on to the past holds you back from being fully present.
Letting go takes courage, time, commitment and practice.
However, the rewards for letting go are change, transformation, growth, and development.
How to quit this toxic habit:
- Identify why you are still holding on to something/someone.
- What is holding you back from letting go?
- What are the emotions that are coming up?
- Where in your life have you maybe experienced these emotions before?
- Forgive
- When the time is right, let go
9. Leaving everything last minute
Leaving things to the last minute certainly works for some people and makes them even more productive, however, it also comes with a few consequences and watch-outs.
Leaving things to the last minute can cause unnecessary stress and anxiety. You might not deliver your best work as you don’t have enough time to do things to your best capacity and knowledge.
Last-minute surprises that come up can cause even more stress. Then you are left with the aftermath of leaving things last minute and not having done them properly, etc.
Regrets, disappointment in yourself, knowing that you could have or should have instead of…this is all food for the mind leaving you even more overwhelmed and stressed out than before.
How to quit this toxic habit:
- Stop procrastinating
- Plan and break bigger projects down into smaller milestones along the way
- Eliminate distractions
- Work on your time management skills
- Create a to-do list/weekly planner to get things done consistently
- Think about introducing a Sunday routine
- Reward yourself along the way
Recommended resources: 7 Ways to Overcome Procrastination – Unleash Your Potential.
10. Not taking a risk
As human beings, we love our comfort zone. It is what we know, it gives us a sense of safety and control.
But staying in our comfort zone keeps us small, prevents personal growth and development, and holds us back from opportunities that might lead to an even better life.
Replace ‘But what if I fail’ with ‘What if it all works out’ and take it from there.
How to quit this toxic habit:
- Define what safety means to you
- Be open to opportunities that come your way
- Cultivate self-love
- Practice gratitude
- Imagine what could change in your life if you finally took that risk….whatever it is for you. What would your life look like? What would your life feel like?
Recommended resources: 8 Powerful Gratitude Activities – A Journey To Abundance and 7 Powerful Self-Love Exercises – Ignite Your Inner Glow.
11. Waiting for the right moment
We all know it, yes, there is no right moment, but we still find ourselves hanging around waiting for the right moment.
There is no right moment to start your own business, apply for a new job, or finally take the photography course you have been looking at for the past 6 months.
If you are looking for excuses you will always find excuses.
How to quit this toxic habit:
- Stop procrastinating
- Say goodbye to perfectionism
- Cultivate self-love
- Practice gratitude
- Set yourself a deadline
- Make it happen
Recommended resources: 7 Ways to Overcome Procrastination – Unleash Your Potential.
There are for sure more toxic habits to quit that can be added to this list, however, the ones I shared with you today, are some of the most common toxic habits and a good starting point.
Supporting tips
Don’t try to quit all your toxic habits at once. Start with the toxic habits to quit that will have the biggest impact on your life and take it from there.
As you are going through the process of toxic habits to quit, be realistic and acknowledge the fact that this will not happen overnight. Remind yourself that you are breaking a behaviour pattern that has been with you for XX years.
Ups and downs along the process of toxic habits to quit are normal. If you face struggles along the way, remind yourself how far you have come, focus on all the positive developments in your life since you started and remind yourself why you are doing this.
By breaking toxic habits, you are creating more mental and emotional stability for yourself, paving the way to a more balanced and fulfilled life, and allowing you to thrive in all areas of your life.
Anything you would like to share about toxic habits to quit or any questions about the toxic habits to quit above, please feel free to leave me a comment below. It’s always great to hear from you guys.
Below are a few related resources that can be a great support along the process of breaking toxic habits:
- 3 Empowering Shadow Work Exercises for Beginners – From Dark to Light
- Ignite Your Inner Glow: 7 Tips on How to Cultivate Self-Love
- 7 Ways to Overcome Procrastination – Unleash Your Potential
Stay wild,
Nicolle
Featured image: Photo by Allef Vinicius on Unsplash
Hi, I am Nicolle, a Senior Marketing professional, certified Yoga Teacher and Wellness Blogger. I am the founder of Let Your Shadow Shine Yoga and this blog. I am here to support you along your self-discovery journey, offering empowering tools like yoga, holistic well-being tips and transformative personal growth strategies.
Gosh! Yes, comparison is the thief of joy! Love your list.
It really is!! Thanks so much, Lou for your comment.
I love everything about this! These are such important toxic habits to quit. Love how you broke them down and gave tips to overcome them.
So happy to hear that you enjoyed the post! Thanks so much for stopping by.
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This is a wonderful article. Thanks so much! ❤️
Thank you so much for stopping by and leaving a comment;-)
Happy to hear that you enjoyed the post!!
These are really important toxic habits to be aware of and overcome. I struggle with negative self-talk and work hard to overcome it.